Spidaerobics

I have a truce with spider-kind, as follows: I do not kill them, and they do not send their minions after me in the night. This is not a zero-sum game. My sister Laura is a treasure trove of spider lore and material. Most recently, she discovered a large lady spider residing in Benny, the […]

Buck up

When my father was in his long decline, he suffered from that bitterest of cocktails, depression with anxiety for a chaser. As part of a strategy to keep his spirits up, the family plastered his walls with posters like this: And this: These ideas definitely provided him with a distraction and helped him see that […]

To absent brothers

In December of 1966, when I was six years old, my mother gave birth to a stillborn boy. When she got home from the hospital, she sat down with her three daughters and said, “He was such a beautiful little boy. I’m sorry I couldn’t bring him home.” My parents buried Baby Jervey in what […]

Fine motor control

My two hands have served me loyally for a great many years, but now they are making noises about a partial retirement. Since I am not a good listener, the signs have been growing ever less subtle: carpal tunnel syndrome, arthritis, and this nasty tearing pain in my right primate muscle every time I knit […]